Gottman Marriage Therapy

Marriage TherapyThe Gottman’s have thoroughly researched what works best in marriage therapy. The Gottman method follows seven basic principles to help couples build healthy relationships. If you are interested in couples counseling and believe this method would be helpful, please contact me.

The Gottman Method for Healthy Relationships:

  1. Build Love Maps:How well do you know your partner’s inner psychological world, his or her history, worries, stresses, joys, and hopes?
  2. Share Fondness and Admiration:The antidote for contempt, this level focuses on the amount of affection and respect within a relationship. (To strengthen fondness and admiration, express appreciation and respect.)
  3. Turn Towards:State your needs, be aware of bids for connection and respond to (turn towards) them. The small moments of everyday life are actually the building blocks of relationship.
  4. The Positive Perspective: The presence of a positive approach to problem-solving and the success of repair attempts.
  5. Manage Conflict:We say “manage” conflict rather than “resolve” conflict, because relationship conflict is natural and has functional, positive aspects. Understand that there is a critical difference in handling perpetual problems and solvable problems.
  6. Make Life Dreams Come True:Create an atmosphere that encourages each person to talk honestly about his or her hopes, values, convictions and aspirations.
  7. Create Shared Meaning: Understand important visions, narratives, myths, and metaphors about your relationship.
  8. Trust:this is the state that occurs when a person knows that his or her partner acts and thinks to maximize that person’s best interests and benefits, not just the partner’s own interests and benefits. In other words, this means, “my partner has my back and is there for me.”
  9. Commitment:This means believing (and acting on the belief) that your relationship with this person is completely your lifelong journey, for better or for worse (meaning that if it gets worse you will both work to improve it). It implies cherishing your partner’s positive qualities and nurturing gratitude by comparing the partner favorably with real or imagined others, rather than trashing the partner by magnifying negative qualities, and nurturing resentment by comparing unfavorably with real or imagined others.

5 Comments

  1. judy on April 25, 2017 at 2:31 pm

    hello I would like to see how much would it be for marriage counseling, my husband and I been marry for over 10 yrs and have 2 daughters are having marriage problems and need help, if you can please let me know, thank you

  2. Faith ray on August 22, 2017 at 8:34 pm

    Interested in fees for marriage counseling?

  3. Steve Bundy on June 24, 2018 at 5:15 pm

    Need marriage counseling ,need to know your denomination , also cost. Been married 7 1/2 years . Have Communication problems causing anger issues .

  4. Connor Kerr on August 27, 2018 at 7:07 pm

    Is there any therapy in the east valley for marriage counseling? how much are fees?

  5. Connor Kerr on February 18, 2020 at 11:46 am

    My wife and I are need of a marriage therapist.

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