Husband giving flowers

I remember in college reading about a lawyer who had argued dozens of times before the United States Supreme Court.  No lawyer wins all the time, but he had been surprisingly effective before the nine justices.  The key, he said, was to understand that to make his case, he could not just make one case,…

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covid and relationships

Marriage Counseling and the Pandemic It’s no secret that since the outbreak of the pandemic marriages have been strained and sometimes pushed to the breaking point. Being forced to be closed in your home for extended periods of time with your spouse during the virus can be a significant challenge. Even the best marriages can…

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marriage miscommunication

Marriage Counseling – it works I just watched a good video from Dr. John Gottman on what makes relationships work.  If you want to view the entire presentation please click on the link. He has studied relationships for over 30 years and written a book describing his work called “The Seven Principles for making Marriage…

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marriage therapy

If you have read any of our blogs on marriage you probably remember the name John Gottman and the dreaded “Four Horseman”. Gottman is known for the Four Horsemen, but also how, in a healthy relationship, each negative exchange during conflict should be balanced by five positive ones. Gottman calls this the magic ratio. Two…

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domestic violence

I just read an article by the Gottman Institute on the difference between situational violence in a marriage and characterological violence.  Mike DeMoss from Family Christian Counseling Center has post graduate training in the Gottman method of marriage therapy. I never enjoy reading articles about domestic violence, but I thought it was important to describe…

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