Relationships: Masters vs. Disasters

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Marriage Counseling – it works I just watched a good video from Dr. John Gottman on what makes relationships work.  If you want to view the entire presentation please click on the link. He has studied relationships for over 30 years and written a book describing his work called “The Seven Principles for making Marriage…

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Repair and Emotional bids

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Two Principles for Marriages I need  help to repair my marriage. If you have read any of our blogs on marriage you probably remember the name John Gottman and the dreaded “Four Horseman”. Gottman is known for the Four Horsemen, but also how, in a healthy relationship, each negative exchange during conflict should be balanced…

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Domestic Violence

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Violence in Marriage I just read an article by the Gottman Institute on the difference between situational violence in a marriage and characterological violence.  Mike DeMoss from Family Christian Counseling Center has post graduate training in the Gottman method of marriage therapy. I never enjoy reading articles about domestic violence, but I thought it was…

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Marriage Therapy – 5 to 1 ratio

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Psychology Today reviewed the Gottman Method of Marriage Therapy  and I thought this week I would summarize the important thoughts presented in this article. Marriage Therapy – based on research The Gottman Method is based on observations showing there is a real science to that most indescribable of experiences, love. The method is built on research…

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Marriage Therapy and Time

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Now – Not Later I just read a good article on marriage therapy from the Gottman Institute.  For my blog this week I will summarize a few of the key points from the author. 6 Years for help The first point I have heard before but he helped me see it in a new light:…

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